Is what you see what you get?
Sometimes, but not always.
That’s the big picture when it comes to communicating via video chat. True, it’s an increasingly common way to both screen new dates and communicate with existing partners, but there are both pros and cons to this new tool in your dating arsenal.
1. DO use webcam chats to screen new dates.
Of course, it’s always smart to have a few phone conversations with potential dates before you agree to meet them in person.
Using chat lines to find a partner is also a better option. Even better, why not chat via webcam before you meet face-to-face?
One advantage of using this method is that you won’t have to wonder if that sexy, eye-catching photo of your date is from 20 years ago. The camera will show you what he or she looks like and sounds like, too. And webcam chats are a great way to screen potential dates in vacation locales or prior to moving to a new area.
2. DO make sure you set the stage, so to speak.
You can check how you look through the webcam first and adjust lighting, background and the camera angle to create the most flattering setting.
Only you can control what can be seen by the person you’re chatting with, so lean in to offer a sexy close-up of your face, or lean further back for a better view of your entire body.
3. DO set aside uninterrupted time for chatting.
With a phone call or IM in progress, you can multitask without your date noticing and, most likely, feeling irritated by your perceived lack of attention. Not so with webcams!
If you’re fiddling with something, checking your PDA, or in any way focusing on something other than the screen and the other person, it’s as bad as sitting across the dinner table from someone who’s already checked out.
4. DO use the Internet to help you both have fun and stay engaged during webcam dates.
If you are sitting across from someone in person, you can enjoy sharing a magazine article or funny video with each other. Not so with webcam chat. But though your virtual date can’t offer the same accessibility as a physical date would, you can still use the Internet to share links to videos, pictures, songs and documents online.
What a great, high-tech way to discover each other’s interests!
5. DO consider webcam dates if you’re going to be separated for long periods of time.
For example, if one of you gets a work assignment that puts you out of town for weeks or months, webcam chats give you a way to feel more connected than you would through phone conversations, where you can’t see each other’s facial expressions or body language.
When it comes to using webcam chats for dating, hopefully, what you see will be what you get. Live chats won’t ever take the place of in-person dates for assessing your romantic chemistry, but it’s still a worthy tool when used wisely.
And if you and your date will be meeting very soon, these dating advice sites can help you make the date a success!